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[18 Apr 2012|07:28am] |
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All, I apologize. I hadn't realized until today that LJ wasn't emailing me the submissions to this community for approval. I changed some settings and tweaked my email to be sure that I'm now notified consistently.
Please do be sure to go back and check older entries here, as two very good submissions were made that got missed.
I will do my best to be sure that this doesn't happen again, and I apologize for the fail!
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| childfree flying |
[17 Apr 2012|10:42pm] |
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I absolutely do not hate kids. I don't hate next doors' grandchildren or almost any other child I have ever met. Its a real joy to me to get my Sunday paper delivered by a child, and the number of kids that I have bought school candy or cookies from cannot be counted. I want people to have lots of kids to grow up and be productive members of society. Cooks and drivers and nurses and mail carriers. I want your kid to get paid nicely to take care of me when I am 95. But I don't love them on a plane. Planes freak me out. They freak everyone out.
I think this image of kids on the baggage conveyor belt is kinda funny. http://articles.businessinsider.com/2012-04-02/news/31273832_1_flights-business-and-economy-class-ear-plugs Flying freaks kids out. Because they are kids, they have no self control and scream when they are sick. This makes everything worse. I think they ought to have a mandatory special room somewhere with medical techs, to take care of all kids because part of the freaking and crying is kids don't adjust to altitude well and if the parent is half airsick as I am and 3/4 the way to a panic attack, as I am, they are in no shape to tend to a child who is in pain from altitude and the crappy air in the aircraft. So put up a room, get some specialists, and put everyone under 13 in there. Don't make fun of people who want some peace because they are already stressed out and nearly ready for the emergency room from bad air, lack of blood flow due to not being able to move, (people have had life threatening bloodclot situations from this-look it up) claustophobia, lack of contact with Mother Earth and the fact that I have never ever, ever flown for a pleasant reason. Its always urgent business, death or illness. So, no, I didn't want to go in the 1st place and was not having a good time. The trip could not wait. It was for a paycheck, or a funeral.
So why do people object to me for wanting some silence to suffer in? I think that is a reasonable request. Want to sit in the kidlet area with your kid? Enjoy. Want to have your panic attack( or even work or sleep) from bad air, bad blood circulation, motion sickness, the TSA and whatever else ails you in a room without screaming? I know the kids and parents feel bad because I feel bad. And loud noises make me feel worse. Can we put people who want to endure the death-defying thing called flying in near silence in the back like the smokers used to be? Put up a wall and don't serve us food or movies. Do anything to make us feel cast out. Sell us off name vodka. Don't give us magazines and peanuts. Betcha nobody minds.
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[01 Nov 2011|11:27am] |
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My boyfriend just sent me this article. What do you all think of it?
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More people making the decision to not have children
November 1, 2011 11:11:46
Emma E. Forrest, Metro World News
As the global population hits seven billion, it’s never been a better time to really think about whether you really want to bring another person into the world. Fortunately, in the 21st century, more and more people are seeing parenting as an option rather than an obligation.
“The percentage of women who reach the end of their childbearing years without kids in the U.S. is around 20 per cent now compared to 10 per cent in the 1970’s,” says Dr. Ellen Walker, author of Complete Without Kids, who also cites declining birth rates in the West, China and Japan as evidence.
“For me, at age 50, I’m still quite an outsider with my peers, but a woman in her 30s who has chosen to be childfree will have more women her age who are in the same boat.”
There are hundreds of reasons for not having kids, from the cost of raising a child, lack of support network to concerns about the ecological impact of adding to an overpopulated world.
The global recession is also a factor. “Many people are concerned about the current and future state of the world and deciding that this is not a place they want to bring children into,” says Dr. Walker.
It’s also a result of openness in society. Choosing to be childfree is not only becoming a more popular life choice, but unlike their predecessors, the new generation of DINKS – dual-income, no kids couples – don’t feel awkward talking about it.
“People are talking openly about the decision and actually viewing it as a choice, rather than an essential life step,” says Dr Walker.
“I’m seeing that women in particular are realizing that we can’t do it all, and that it’s OK to choose either mothering or career and to walk away from the other.”
Where parents see raising decent children as their legacy and purpose in life, DINKS channel their energies into projects, charity work, hobbies or volunteer work.
“I encourage childfree adults to take time to consider this legacy question carefully,” says Dr Walker.
“If you’re not a parent, it’s critical to find your own purpose. Otherwise, you will likely find yourself having regrets at some point about not having had kids.”
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It's good to see more articles like this out there; however, I don't really understand the doctor they were interviewing. She's child-free, but she seems to suggest that it's not that people don't want kids, they're just choosing a career over having them. At the end of the article, she says that you better have something in your life if you don't have kids, because when you get older you'll regret not having them unless you have something else to take their place (so to speak.) I don't think this is right, at least not for me. I don't want them, regardless of whether I have a busy career or not. What do you all think?
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| Thought you guys might find this as amusing as I did. |
[20 Jul 2011|07:47pm] |
The presenter in this clip use be a presenter on a popular Australian childrens TV show called Play School back when I was a kid and she useto read stories on the show in exactly the same manner. LOL
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[07 Jul 2011|02:11pm] |
Im starting to get to that age now where all of my friends and peers are either trying to get pregnant, are pregnant, or have kids. Friends are dropping off the face of the earth and it is getting lonely!*
I know there are a lot of childfree groups in the states, but I am in the UK and it seems to be hard to find people with similar interests and sans-children.
What do you guys do to keep your social life alive?
(*and I have to add that it is getting more complicated as even my 22 -24 year old friends are also deep in duscussion about having children. sigh.)
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| A little levity |
[04 May 2011|08:31am] |
I also recently found a childfree shirt I actually like. I know, it doesn't look like a childfree shirt, but they will customize it with a 0... I just got mine in the mail last night.
Hope everyone is well. It's been quiet lately.
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| Still fighting the same fight |
[15 Dec 2010|01:13pm] |
http://www.salon.com/life/feature/2010/12/14/tubes_tied_at_27/index.html
The good thing about this story is how much easier it was for her to make that decision in Denmark, where the default assumption is not that a 27-year-old is still a baby who isn't competent to make decisions about her own life. The bad thing is the crap she still has to deal with when she's in America. A stranger at a party poked her in the stomach and asked when she might be showing?!!! I don't even want to contemplate the scene I would have made! Rude questions are (sadly) unavoidable, but HANDS OFF MY BODY.
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[21 Sep 2010|01:36am] |
I just found a fantastic article about the increasingly high profile of child free people on Jezebel.com, AND so far, all of the comments have been super supportive. I especially loved this line:"Friedman writes that "many scientists believe the seemingly biological drive some women feel isn't triggered by biology, so much as culture."
W00t!
x-posted.
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| Mirena |
[09 Aug 2010|03:42pm] |
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forgive me if this is not an appropriate forum for this question, but i've been a member of this community for a while and i feel comfortable asking this here. my partner and i have been together for over 11 years now and we are, without a doubt, child-free. we discussed children early on and both of us never want any. we're very careful and i've been on the pill for years. but recently my gynecologist suggested Mirena. i've been reading the pamphlet and thinking about it, but i'm still not 100% sure. so i was wondering if any other child-free community members out there have chosen this method and whether they're satisfied with it. are you happy you got? what side effects did you have, if any? would you recommend it? just generally, what's your opinion?
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| My Bundles of Joy |
[20 Jul 2010|12:16pm] |
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Last night, my partner and I had an impromptu art bondage and photo shoot until 1am.
We aren't wealthy (yet), but we can afford small delights like gourmet teas, a nice bottle of wine, and occasional trip to the hot springs.
What are the "bundles of joy" you have with time and money you save by staying childfree?
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| Post-apocalyptic choices |
[16 May 2010|11:41pm] |
A while back, someone posted in this community asking whether any of us would change our mind about being childfree if there was an apocalypse and we were left to repopulate humanity. The idea stuck in my head. It always did bother me that post-apocalyptic entertainment brings up this concept like it's the ONLY option. Of COURSE humanity must go on.
So when I decided to enter the Merciless Storytellers competition, I wrote a short story based around that decision.
You can listen to it here (hit the "P" on the pickle player) and if you like it (or any of the others), voting is open for the next two weeks and there's no limit to the amount of writers you can vote for.
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